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this is your reminder that not every person will like you and, conversely, you will not like every single person.

and this is your reminder that that's okay. you don't have to. these are in no way requirements.

are they nice to have? sure. but once you realize that these aren't obligations or necessities, it frees you up to just be yourself for the sake of your own self and love who it is you are. the right folks will see your shine and will love you for it.

fuck the haters.

#beyourself
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#beyourself
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Spencer

Content warning: silly response to this very earnest and meaningful post, which I agree with; sorry

Spencer

Content warning: silly response to this very earnest and meaningful post, which I agree with; sorry

pocket full of hawthornes 💦
@spencer i mean, juxtaposition *does* happen. 😂
@Spencer
pocket full of hawthornes 💦
many people out there believe that you must conform to their idea of what you should be, that you need their approval. and society gets it in our head that we must be liked by everyone or something's wrong with us. but that's not true.

fuck that.

and ya know what? should these people ever tell you, in an effort to hurt you or cut you down, that they don't like you and you shoot back with "okay" or shrug and say "you don't have to", you rob them of the power they thought they had over you.
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Buideach
Hm. I like the idea of individualism very much. On the other hand I also accept that humans are social beings, naturally living in groups or herds. Being a member of a group includes adapting to/following the group’s rules. While in an archaic society the group would always be above the individual I believe we have (or at should have) reached a social development where we can be both, at least to a certain degree: a respected individual, being part of a group.
Buideach
2/2 We are not wired for a really solitary life, exceptions accepted. The human soul longs for being part of something bigger.
pocket full of hawthornes 💦
@Buideach sure, i get that. but we need to be reminded that our sense of individuality should not be neglected because of pressures from society. there are people that lose their goddamn minds if they find out that someone out there - be it someone they know or a complete stranger - happens to not like them. and they will try their damnedest to win them over. not because they necessarily want to but because they can't stand the idea that they are unliked. it's not an uncommon phenomenon.
@Buideach
Buideach
That’s right and imo abuse.

On the other hand there are some groups in the society where I feel absolutely no guilt when I let them feel and hear what a dumb disgrace they are … 🤔
pocket full of hawthornes 💦
@Buideach i mean, put it this way: we've been so entrenched in a world where the norm has been to chase likes, views and shares and reshares that there has literally been a global movement to focus on the concept of "self-care". like it's a new concept. so preoccupied with external validation from others (strangers, often) that we've lost sight of taking proper care of our own selves.
@Buideach
pocket full of hawthornes 💦
and, really, it's okay if you don't get along with every person either. it's a hard truth but there are people that you can't and won't mesh with. and that's fine.

there's nothing wrong with you. there's nothing wrong with them. these things just happen sometimes.

we're often so hung up on appearances and social obligations that we wind up forcing things and introducing unnecessary pressure in situations like these.

realizing that we don't all have to be BFFs is freeing as hell.
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sitnuok
When I was younger I sought approval.

Now I don’t care so much. It’s too much effort and people are full of 💩.

I weigh the opinions of others in direct proportion to their contribution to my mortgage.

No pay no say… be on your way.

It’s liberating.

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